As May is Mental Health Awareness Month, I had an idea to write a letter each day to a person, or group of people that have had an impact on my own personal health. The first portion of the month has been delayed, however I hope that I will catch up and there will be a daily post. Thank You for taking the time to read these and I appreciate any comments or support you can provide on each post.
Please remember that if you are struggling with your health, both physical or mental, there may be some triggers in these letters-please seek support if you find these letters trigger any distress. Look after yourself!!
Letter 2 – To my old colleagues and your opinions on mental health conditions.
TW – This post discusses negative attitudes to Suicide/suicide attempts.
I have worked in several different areas but one thing stands out across all of my work places (in the UK) – is people’s attitude towards mental health.
I have heard colleagues in previous roles laugh about mental health, I have had to be present when these colleagues laugh and say that they ‘obviously hadn’t done the job properly’ and ask why “these people are ringing for help” and saying “if they want to kill themselves then just do it” or that they hadn’t “done the job properly and should do it properly next time instead of wasting time and ringing for help that, according to you is ‘not deserved’ “.
Some of these people laughing even rang in sick to work due to ‘stress and anxiety’ – then continued to ‘make fun and bully’ complete strangers.
Two colleagues in my role were supportive – I won’t put their names here but E and S were very supportive. S took time from his schedule and was so supportive, I appreciate him telling me his story and being so genuine when I asked for support. I wasn’t scared to be me and I was not made to feel like a liar, small or stupid.
S – You saved my life in a way you will never know. Thank You so much xx
- To my other colleagues, I have sat behind you while you have talked about me.
- I have been sat on the opposite table working whilst you have talked about me- I use to set my desk high and chair low, so to you it looked like an empty desk but I was there- whilst you mocked my colleagues and me!!
- You have mocked my size, my mental health, my physical health and conditions, my marriage and LGBTQ issues.
- You continue to this day to ban, block and ignore me on social media.
You are lucky!! Continuing to be lucky to this day that I did not take formal action and even criminal action against you.
I hope one day you bullies get treated as bad as the treatment you have given. Whilst I try not to ‘hate’ or treat people badly- I will not go out of my way to support bullies and hypocrites.
You contributed to me hating myself – but you will not win!!